Phantom Emotions
Have you ever found yourself in either end of a conversation which goes something like this:
Person A: You seem upset, whats wrong?
Person M: I don't know.
Person A: How can you not know?
Person M: I just don't "Know"
Person A: There has to be a reason
Person M: I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE REASON IS
....In some situations, the conversation goes back and forth until person M finally cracks and tries to murder person A. That is possibly why I should have added Person R to the conversation. Chalo, koi nahi.
In Psychology, we learn about psychogenic pain in which people feel pain but no explanations can be given for that pain. Now this is not a lecture on psychology but rather, an explanation for "Phantom Emotions". Although I have used psychology as a reference, Phantom Emotions is just a term I have created in this situation to help you guys understand better, it is not a real psychological term.
Have you ever experienced an explosion of emotions but for the life of you, you couldn't find an explanation behind them? Have you ever felt irrationally angry - or more commonly, depressed but no matter how long you pondered over it, you couldn't figure out why these emotions had surfaced out of the blue? Have you ever found yourself having a perfectly normal day but then out of nowhere, you just get sudden urge to lash out at everyone you see and when you sit down and try to figure out what trigger this random burst of emotion, you failed to come up with a reason?
We all go through this and there are far more reasons behind it rather than hormones so lets just leave that out of the equation for now.
Phantom emotions can be defined as people feeling an emotion but no explanation can be given for the emotions. Most people believe that they suffer from Phantom Emotions, they believe that they can be bombarded with feelings and those feelings would come out of nowhere with no explanation, that is wrong. The emotions, the feelings do come from somewhere. As easy or as soothing as it may be to blame "Phantom Emotions" alas, there are no phantom emotions.
I once read a study in which it proved that "Pretending to be okay" is not okay. When you try to hide your feelings and act is if you are perfectly fine when you are not, it will not do you any good. Take the example of a garbage bag, there is only so much you can stuff in there before it begins to over flow and the bag can burst. Like wise, there are only so many emotions that you can bottle up inside until they begin to overflow and you can not stop that - We all have our limitations. Its like a volcanic eruption. You may be having a normal day but something, even the tiniest thing can just add on to the already bottled in emotions and that one tiny thing can cause everything to come out. Sometimes, people do this without even knowing it, sometimes you do not know that something has hurt you or something has bothered you but then one day, one tiny thing can cause it all to come out and since you did not know that you were emotionally affected by something, you think the emotion has no explanation.
Most people try to use an easy escape from this and try to blame other people, situations or things. Whatever seems convenient. Sometimes, people can not understand that this is happening because they've kept their feelings bottled inside so when they pour out, people just blame whatever is in sight or whatever is easier to blame. All this does is add more and more to that already overflowing volcano.
The best way to avoid an eruption of feelings? Do not run from them. If you feel hurt, depressed, angry or any other emotion then deal with it on that day. You can not put emotions to the side and think about dealing with them some other day. Yes, faking a smile can actually make you feel better but faking happiness when you are broken inside will not do you any good. Lets say, you are broken and destroyed inside but you wear a smile every day. What will this cause? People will not think anything is wrong with you and you will begin to think that no one cares when in reality, people do not know any better than to think you are okay. Im not saying you need to let people see how vulnerable you are but you do need at least ONE person who can be there for you, who knows the battles you have to fight. You need at least one person in front of whom, you do not have to pretend to be okay.
So what is another reason for the not so phantom emotions?
Stress. Our individual minds deal with stress in different ways. Sometimes, when you reach the peak of your stress then you just break down. Have you ever heard of an emotional breakdown? In a way, it all just relates to an eruption of feelings.
In simple terms, whatever reasons can be coined for this, the main reason is holding back emotions. It isnt a wise decision and if not confrontation then find some way to let the emotions out. You can write about them, sing about them, take pictures representing your emotions, you can draw to let it all out and you can do so much more. You do not need to be a writer to write in a diary letting your emotions out, you do not need to an artist to doodle in the confines of your notebook. All you need to be is YOU and you need to deal with your emotions up front.
There is nothing wrong with you, you just need to handle your emotions with care. They may be powerful but are just as fragile.
Person A: You seem upset, whats wrong?
Person M: I don't know.
Person A: How can you not know?
Person M: I just don't "Know"
Person A: There has to be a reason
Person M: I DON'T KNOW WHAT THE REASON IS
....In some situations, the conversation goes back and forth until person M finally cracks and tries to murder person A. That is possibly why I should have added Person R to the conversation. Chalo, koi nahi.
In Psychology, we learn about psychogenic pain in which people feel pain but no explanations can be given for that pain. Now this is not a lecture on psychology but rather, an explanation for "Phantom Emotions". Although I have used psychology as a reference, Phantom Emotions is just a term I have created in this situation to help you guys understand better, it is not a real psychological term.
Have you ever experienced an explosion of emotions but for the life of you, you couldn't find an explanation behind them? Have you ever felt irrationally angry - or more commonly, depressed but no matter how long you pondered over it, you couldn't figure out why these emotions had surfaced out of the blue? Have you ever found yourself having a perfectly normal day but then out of nowhere, you just get sudden urge to lash out at everyone you see and when you sit down and try to figure out what trigger this random burst of emotion, you failed to come up with a reason?
We all go through this and there are far more reasons behind it rather than hormones so lets just leave that out of the equation for now.
Phantom emotions can be defined as people feeling an emotion but no explanation can be given for the emotions. Most people believe that they suffer from Phantom Emotions, they believe that they can be bombarded with feelings and those feelings would come out of nowhere with no explanation, that is wrong. The emotions, the feelings do come from somewhere. As easy or as soothing as it may be to blame "Phantom Emotions" alas, there are no phantom emotions.
I once read a study in which it proved that "Pretending to be okay" is not okay. When you try to hide your feelings and act is if you are perfectly fine when you are not, it will not do you any good. Take the example of a garbage bag, there is only so much you can stuff in there before it begins to over flow and the bag can burst. Like wise, there are only so many emotions that you can bottle up inside until they begin to overflow and you can not stop that - We all have our limitations. Its like a volcanic eruption. You may be having a normal day but something, even the tiniest thing can just add on to the already bottled in emotions and that one tiny thing can cause everything to come out. Sometimes, people do this without even knowing it, sometimes you do not know that something has hurt you or something has bothered you but then one day, one tiny thing can cause it all to come out and since you did not know that you were emotionally affected by something, you think the emotion has no explanation.
Most people try to use an easy escape from this and try to blame other people, situations or things. Whatever seems convenient. Sometimes, people can not understand that this is happening because they've kept their feelings bottled inside so when they pour out, people just blame whatever is in sight or whatever is easier to blame. All this does is add more and more to that already overflowing volcano.
The best way to avoid an eruption of feelings? Do not run from them. If you feel hurt, depressed, angry or any other emotion then deal with it on that day. You can not put emotions to the side and think about dealing with them some other day. Yes, faking a smile can actually make you feel better but faking happiness when you are broken inside will not do you any good. Lets say, you are broken and destroyed inside but you wear a smile every day. What will this cause? People will not think anything is wrong with you and you will begin to think that no one cares when in reality, people do not know any better than to think you are okay. Im not saying you need to let people see how vulnerable you are but you do need at least ONE person who can be there for you, who knows the battles you have to fight. You need at least one person in front of whom, you do not have to pretend to be okay.
So what is another reason for the not so phantom emotions?
Stress. Our individual minds deal with stress in different ways. Sometimes, when you reach the peak of your stress then you just break down. Have you ever heard of an emotional breakdown? In a way, it all just relates to an eruption of feelings.
In simple terms, whatever reasons can be coined for this, the main reason is holding back emotions. It isnt a wise decision and if not confrontation then find some way to let the emotions out. You can write about them, sing about them, take pictures representing your emotions, you can draw to let it all out and you can do so much more. You do not need to be a writer to write in a diary letting your emotions out, you do not need to an artist to doodle in the confines of your notebook. All you need to be is YOU and you need to deal with your emotions up front.
There is nothing wrong with you, you just need to handle your emotions with care. They may be powerful but are just as fragile.
ahhh... thankyouuu ;)
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